In this episode Cem and Wayne discuss why so many people wait for breaking point before taking action. We also talk about the many reasons why people avoid change and how some people turn their breaking point into a catalyst for massive achievement through a rare phenomenon know as post-traumatic growth.
What you’ll hear
Snow Patrol – “Headlights On Dark Roads”
02:45 Beginning quote
“Neither a wise man nor a brave man lies down on the tracks of history to wait for the train of the future to run over him.” – Dwight D. Eisenhower
04:20 Why do people wait for breaking point?
08:30 Fear of money is the number one reason why people avoid change.
10:20 Most people aren’t taught how to make money for themselves.
13:20 How outside pressures limit people’s growth.
16:30 You have to learn to embrace the identity of who you want to become.
17:40 Start having a conversation with the future ideal you for guidance on what you should be doing today.
19:10 Change is extremely difficult when you’ve outsourced control to others.
22:30 Cracks will show in your body and mind when you’re off course from your purpose.
27:00 Self-sabotaging behaviour are warning signs that you need to make a change.
28:00 Stephen’s Story
“My cancer was a huge kick up the backside, it taught me not to take things for granted and gave me a new motivation for life.” – Stephen Sutton
35:05 Thinking about death is great way to reframe the mind for change.
40:00 Set a new standard.
40:45 End Quote
“We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.” ― Henry Cloud
41:30 Action Steps
1. Ask yourself if you continue on your current trajectory would you hit the mark on where and who you want to be in the future? What are the future consequences of not taking action?
2. Make a list of the ways you are currently sabotaging yourself from getting to that goal.
3. Write down the smallest actions you could start today that could start you on your path to getting you there. (reading a book, reaching out to someone, spending less time with certain people)
Check out English Monroe’s episode on creating new habits.
Episode wrap up
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